Response to comments to "A Snob and a Half"

First of all, thanks to anonymous and mimi for taking time out to read my previous entry. My gratitude for the comments, as well.

I have been thinking about the comment from the anonymous reader. Well written; I must say. It brought to fore some things that I realized make me shun away from adding people I do not know. Maybe some stories would be quite useful.

1. Somewhere in my youth or childhood...

"Do not talk to strangers."

My mother drilled that to me countless of times. She said they might be kidnappers or rapists. I am sure a lot of us would be familiar with this admonition. We are trained to be wary that anyone approaching us might be the big bad wolf. Let us just say I have been a good trainee.


2. high school life:

"You are a doubting Thomas."

This was a line our high school counsellor told me when she was trying to assess my aptitude, interests, and personality. I did not tell her otherwise because I do think she nailed it. I was even back then often skeptical trusting only a few people with my secrets and desires. Needless to say, I did not even see anything wrong with that. Maybe that is who I am that is why it takes a longer time before I can trust someone around me much less someone I have not even met.

3. In the recent past:

"You will just never know where you will find love"

One of the closest person in my life, got to know his wife through the friendster. He actually asked the girl to become her contact, then they started to regularly correspond to each other. They were a thousand of miles away from each other, but they claimed to be feeling a sort of connection with each other.

True to form, I was skeptical. I kept my doubts to myself. I know that my best friend will not lsiten to me anyway. When they finally met, they started dating and became a couple then got engage in a matter of less than a year. They said they could not wait. They both felt, "This is it!" He was even egging me to take a chance on looking for someone via the internet, as well saying I have to take a chance cause you will never know. The then happy couple and some friends thought it was gonna be happily ever after. Lo and behold, after month of being married, skeletons in the closet started to smell. Soon, they were on the verge of breaking up and all that. The girl was crying 24/7. All I could tell my friend is-"I knew it." Enough said, I guess. (whatever happened to them is a topic for another post.)

4. In the here and now

"I am still a snob and a half!"

Wonder if people remember the term -snob in a half. It was from the movie Clueless. (I like that chick flick!)

Anyway, I am torn. people would say I am not open to different possibilities. The comments of the anynimous commenter and mimi's are the two things that I have been mulling about. These comments have shown the dichotomy of the thoughts going on in my mind about these things. Truth be told, I really choose people I associate with. Whatever!

Mimi, nice to know I am not alone in my adding-people-I-don't-really-know-phobia.

Wonder if this post even makes sense.... lol...actually this took two days to write